The season has turned. Fall is behind us and Winter approaches. For our friends up north this is easily noticed by the changing of the leaves and then the absence of them on the trees (not to mention colder weather).
Those of us here in Florida, well, the calendar is what alerts us to the season changing.
Most people look forward to this time of the year. Christmas time. Holiday time. The images that come to mind when we think of this time of year are those of family gatherings, smiles on faces, and traditions being passed down through the years. There are the Christmas decorations that have been handed down through the generations that are gently unpacked and placed around the house. Decorating the Christmas tree is full of nostalgia as each ornament has a story behind it from years past. Each year adds to the plethora of memories each family member holds.
So….what do you do when there are no “family memories” to talk about and enjoy reliving because you are a “new” family… a blended family? Each parent has their own box of Christmas decorations, traditions, and memories but they aren’t ones that include all the people now sitting together for a holiday gathering. Do you use the decorations you have gathered through the
years in your previous marriages? Do you keep them tucked away in a box and start all over with brand new decorations? Do you talk about memories and traditions from the past or do you keep those tucked away in your mind and heart so as to not offend the new spouse?
These may seem like silly questions to some. Trust me when I say that for a new blended family, they are not. They are real questions with real feelings and emotions tied to each one of them. You want to enjoy this time of year. You want desperately to do things right and not “step on anyone’s toes”.
You know you want to create new memories with the new family, but where do you start?
Join me this month of December as we journey through the blog series “From Broken to Blended” where we address these issues and more. The journey to being a Redemptive Family can be obtained.